We talk to Tamsyn Rosenberg the Founder of Get Real International about what it takes to ‘nail it’ when it comes to emotional well-being in our teenage children! You may like to share this article – she wrote it for them!
The pressures and expectations are certainly mounting when it comes to schooling, exam time and managing a busy schedule. It’s not surprising that some young people are cracking under the pressure. There is an alternative; a better way of managing your big, beautiful life. First of all, know that you are doing great! To focus on yourself, as a person is one of the most important investments you can make.
See yourself as your most valuable asset – invest wisely
Be the real thing, don’t just talk, walk the walk. The time you invest in yourself now is what you will be good at in a years’ time. What are you investing most your time in? Have an honest look, do you spend the majority of that dressing up for Facebook selfies, or mastering the next level on your newest Xbox game? What you are dedicating your time to is what you are mastering. What will you have to show for it?
If you haven’t allocated time for study, not just homework, this will limit your success. If you don’t allocate time for exercise, proper nutrition your body and mind simply can’t perform at peak. Success is a collection of the millions of little choices and efforts you put in every day. You become what you invest your time in. Let’s put it into a picture so it gets really clear. Let’s get a snapshot, fill this in how it is for you now:
Decide what you want to be – become the hero in your own story. Don’t just follow a whole bunch of inspirational stories on YouTube – tell your own story. So ask yourself a couple of questions, and take a moment to answer them:
- Who do you want to be/choose to be?
- What is important to you?
- What makes you happy?
- How will you invest in yourself to make this a reality?
- What needs to change in your 24-hour investment to make this happen for you?
Be prepared to make the hard decisions and do the work. For example if you want others to look up to you for being inspired and successful in your life, is it time to start reinvesting some of your gaming or Facebook hours into achieving this. You could use some of this time to in getting a job, earning some cash and buying a car.
What do you want to create for yourself?
After you have thought about those questions, map out your 24 hour investment in yourself again. Write down your plan and put it up in your room as a commitment to yourself. What you are going to change? Fill it in again with what you want your life to be. Make room for everything that makes you happy, chart your success. Your life is a result of all your choices. So if something doesn’t work for you, make better choices.
Now it’s time to make it happen.
Tamsyn Rosenberg Founder of Get Real International. Internationally recognised expert in mental and emotional wellbeing. Supporting individuals, families, communities, teens and the organisations that support them. Empowering healthier happier Australians for over 10 years.
This article was published in Issue 17 of our print magazine, August/September 2016.